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How a prenuptial / post-nuptial agreement should be used as a tool to for a better marriage.

June 4th, 2018  | Families & Couples | By Kimberly Ross Clayson

“As a couple embarks on marriage and an opening of hearts to one another, it is important to expose your financial skeletons to each other and to clearly set forth a financial plan.”

One of the top drivers of marital discontent and eventual divorce is financial disagreement. (Huffington Post)

When we are swooning over wedding plans, the start of a life with someone we love and the idealism of marital bliss, it is hard to bring up the often avoided conversation of finances. Yet building a strong financial house with your spouse-to-be will help you build a stronger home and future together.

This is where the prenuptial or if you missed the chance, a post-nuptial agreement, makes good sense as a plan first and foremost for a stronger marriage. As a couple embarks on marriage and an opening of hearts to one another, it is important to expose your financial skeletons to each other and to clearly set forth a financial plan:

Will you share checking accounts or keep things separate or each commit funds to a shared “house” account? what debts will be following each of you from single life into married life and how will they be tackled: together or alone? What assets will be joining the marriage, are they going to be kept separate or be pooled together?

Nothing can halt the honeymoon period of marriage than believing yet not discussing whether you agree on finances and swiftly learning your spouse has diametrically opposed views of the financial life of a marriage.

Negotiating and drafting a prenuptial (or post-nuptial agreement) is an opportunity to bring a couple together, and build a set of shared financial values that can help build a more open and understanding marriage.

Yes, financial concepts you reach agreement on now may change and evolve as your marriage will change and evolve but starting with an open and honest conversation about finances today will facilitate an open dialogue to come together to discuss the way things should change and evolve as your marriage grows.

Hiring an attorney to help you facilitate, draft and negotiate a prenuptial or post-nuptial agreement is a great way for couples work through the key aspects of combining your financial life with your spouse, of course it is important to find an attorney sensitive to the topic and to the emotions that can surface in each of us when talking about finances in search of a common ground.


Here at Clayson, Schneider & Miller we have worked with couples and individuals through some of the toughest financial issues individuals will face in their lifetime and with that background, we can help you find common ground and build a stronger financial future for the sake of your marriage and your future.